The term self-care is thrown around like it’s going out of style…and maybe it is. The term has become over-used, cliche, and it’s lost its impact, for many. The first thing that comes to mind when thinking of traditional self-care…is bubble baths and pedicures. However, this blog sets the stage for our readers to consider a deeper approach to taking care of the self without falling into the stereotype that self-care is only for women who want to be pampered.
Giving yourself undivided attention on a regular basis is the aim, and sometimes it’s not cozy and comfy like a hot tea on a rainy day (not that we’re saying that’s a bad thing). Radical self-care includes the things we don’t necessarily want to do. The dark corners of adulthood can be procrastinated and put on the “I’ll get to it next week” list. Don’t worry–the suggestions aren’t all gloom and doom. The key word is balance. What’s in store for you when practicing radical self-care? Read on.
Garbage in, garbage out.
Sounds like something a parent would say to a teenager. No matter what your age, this credo holds true. A human is constantly taking in information, entertainment, interpersonal communication, and nutrition…however, usually, the emphasis is honed in on the ladder. I am certainly not downplaying the importance of fueling your body with enriched foods and beverages. But ask yourself, “How enriched are the other things I feed my mind and body?”.
Binge-watching TV series or having a movie marathon may be a novelty on a rainy day, but if this activity is a typical day, multiple days a week, your mental well-being is going to begin to deteriorate. In this case, practicing radical self-care would be choosing a more enriching activity. Something that involves rest, but also incorporates moving the body like gentle yoga or a slow, mindful walk. Guided meditation or Yoga Nidra practice could also give you the reprieve you need to recharge your battery. The benefits of one of these suggested practices over binge-watching TV or movies will make a huge impact on your mental health if this new trend becomes a regular practice.
Certain neurotransmitters of the brain are highly benefited from mindfulness and body movement, even slow and gentle body movement. When you exercise these ‘mind-chemicals’ like serotonin, dopamine, and norepinephrine, contentment, and peace are more likely to find their way to you than streaming entertainment.
Ingesting information through podcasts, mainstream media, the news, social media, etc. These are all platforms where we have the power to choose the level of quality or contamination our brains are exposed to. American Psychological Association calls it “media saturation overload”. Taking in too much news via social media or news platforms can trigger PTSD, anxiety, panic disorders, and depression. Minds are already over-stimulated enough…why add fuel to the fire? There are so many accessible positive outlets to fill free time, but changing this habit isn’t second nature; it takes time and individual, intentional choices that are baby steps toward feeling a positive change.
Self-Care in Relationships
Relationships as self-care. This is an opportunity to take a step back and explore your relationships. If you observe mindfully, you may be able to tap into what you feel when interacting with others. It’s like the boy scout slogan, ‘Leave it better than you found it’ (paraphrasing, of course). Is that how you’re experiencing relationships? Or do you feel exhausted after a conversation or visit? For some, large crowds can be draining. For others, it can be small talk or loved ones and co-workers who are triggering. You are the only one who knows who drains you and who fills your cup…use your intuition.
Identify those relationships and go in one of two directions: #1: Set boundaries around when/why/how long you speak to that person(s). This kind of self-nurturing isn’t soft and comfy, but boundaries are the epitome of radical self-care. Choice #2: End the relationship or take a break. Self-care can be brutal and painful in the beginning, it fades when someone realizes they’re no longer keeping the relationship alive for the wrong reasons.
Self-Care through Creativity
Express yourself. Think outside the box. Get familiar with the part of the mind that wants to expand and visualize. This could mean taking a painting, sculpture, or photography class; taking up new hobbies like biking or roller-blading; taking road trips and weekend excursions; or visiting an art museum. Travel. Read. Journal.
Creating isn’t only for creative people. Every human was brought into this world with the ability to bring ideas and visions to life. Honoring this expansion keeps one from feeling stuck. Keep growing and learning and trying new things. You never know what kind of hidden talents and passions you have until you get creative and explore!
Silence is Bliss
A simple concept…self-care by way of silence and solitude. Some love the thought of silence. Others find silence deafening and uncomfortable. Which way do you lean?
Spending time in peace and quiet has physiological, mental, and behavioral benefits. Stress levels lower as cortisol levels lower; self-awareness is heightened; brain cells are generated in the hippocampus. Mind space is created and ideas flow as creativity is expanded (great news for the paragraph above!). If you’re not a meditator, that’s ok. Silence can take place anywhere at any time and you don’t have to be meditating. It can even take place while you drive!
Intentional quiet time throughout the day is freely accessible; you may have to carve time into your schedule by setting an alarm to remind you to begin your silent time. Please note: silent time does NOT include scrolling social media. It’s really about the art of doing nothing until it becomes comfortable.
Hopefully, these tools have given you alternative ideas and opinions on self-care. You can expand upon these ideas and add healthy behaviors and hobbies that bring you more peace and contentment. Other things like making doctor’s appointments and paying bills can lift the weight off your shoulders and relieve stress…it’s not fun but it’s self-care! Checking things off your to-do list is self-care! If you already practice radical self-care, share your practices in the comments below!
